Moms Talk: Please Don't Help My Kids

A Patch blogger's post about not helping her children on the slide is being debated across the country.

Moms Talk is a weekly feature on all Lehigh Valley Patches in which local parents, caregivers and other members of the community are invited to share opinions and advice on parenting topics.

This week’s Moms Talk question relates to a Patch blog post called “Please Don’t Help My Kids.”

Originally posted on a California Patch site in September, the blog has taken on a life of its own in recent weeks, thanks to the power of social media. At the time of this writing it had 124,000 Facebook recommendations and 833 people had tweeted the blog. Written by Kate Bassford Baker as an open letter to other parents at the playground, the blog centers on Baker's request that other parents not help her girls on the slide. Baker says that getting up the slide’s ladder on one's own is the first step to learning new things and overcoming obstacles, which is a critical life skill.

Read "Please Don’t Help My Kids" by clicking here.

And that brings us to this week’s Moms Talk question:

Do you agree with the blogger's point of view that children should be forced to climb up that playground slide on their own? Why or why not?

Our Moms Council members include:

  • Lisa Amey of Upper Milford Township is a stay-at-home mom to an 8-year-old boy and a 5-year-old girl. A past president of the MOMS Club of Emmaus and longtime member of MOPs (Mothers of Preschoolers), Lisa is an Independent Consultant for Arbonne International.
  • Lisa Drew of Emmaus is a certified nutritionist and personal trainer, wellness and fitness coach with more than 17 years of experience. She is the mother of a 13-year-old girl and a 9-year-old boy.
  • Jennifer Elston of Emmaus has almost two decades of professional experience in child development and counseling. She is currently a stay-at-home mom to two beautiful girls. Together with her husband, Chris, she owns Christopher Elston Photography.
  • Jeanne Lombardo of Nazareth is the mother of a 10-year-old boy and a 5-year-old girl. She’s new to the Lehigh Valley, having moved to Nazareth from Bergen County, NJ in January.
  • Lisa Merk of Lower Macungie is a stay-at-home mother of four boys – a 12-year-old and 6-year-old triplets. Lisa is a past president of the MOMS Club of Lower Macungie East. In her “spare” time, Lisa teaches piano to school-age children.
  • Zoila Bonilla Paul of Bethlehem is a stay-at-home mom to two girls – a 5-year-old and a 14-month-old. Zoila is a member of her local “moms’ club” and says she is “well-versed in the fun that children can bring.”
  • Beth Sharpless of Emmaus works part time in a local emergency department as a nurse and part time from home as a customer support specialist. She has two children -- a boy who is almost 2 and a 5-year-old girl. She says they love spending time outdoors and dancing.
Ann January 31, 2013 at 12:00 PM
j p, you are over the top. Your wondering went way off the tracks! Why do you need to make her into a bad mother, it's her point of view.
Mary Anne Looby February 01, 2013 at 12:33 AM
I have not heard anything about this until now. I have not read the article but I do remember vividly the first time my first born climbed a slide. He had no fear, and it was a really big slide. The ladder was slanted with hand rails on each side so I am sure that gave him confidence. I had my heart in my mouth the whole time. My husband kept telling me he was fine. When he reached the top and was standing there I thought I would pass out. He managed to get his little self situated and down he came with the biggest grin I have ever seen. He is almost 44 years old, but I remember that day as though it were yesterday. He was so proud of himself. He hopped off, ran right back to the ladder and up he went again and again. I say let them climb, but stay close and don't let them see YOUR fear. Thanks for reminding me of one lifes best moments.
Jennifer Elston February 01, 2013 at 06:10 AM
I think the article is perfectly worded and that mom is teaching her kids how to be strong and independent people. Good for her! Yes, I agree with her.
j p castle February 02, 2013 at 01:39 AM
I didn't go off the rails. I've seen the kids in the neighborhood who I end up having to tell them to pay attention because their parents let them run the streets from age 3 and because they leave their door open their kids get in trouble and they hear nothing. Because they are left to themselves with no supervision they have been left to do for themselves. And I've seen a child hit by a car us no one paid attention. To me she went off the rails about one incident. it's opinion. The person thought they were being helpful so explain it to r person why go on about it. U have ur opinion Ann, this is mine. Sorry u don't agree. But that's why everyone's entitled to one.
Ann February 02, 2013 at 02:00 AM
j p, I agree with you in regard to some of these parents that don't pay attention. I raised 4 kids and I was always out with them when they were young. I have seen 3 yr. old kids and younger on driveways ALONE. It is ridiculous! The same kids grow up to drink and behave without responsibility...parents still oblivious. We are on the same page there. I felt that you over read the basic principal of what the mom was trying to say. Sometimes kids have to fall and pick themselves up to build character and perseverance. That's what I got out of it. I guess it's like a piece of art, everyone has a different interpretation. You are entitled to yours. I think maybe the fact that you were so close to such a horrible tragedy certainly affected you. It certainly would have affected me.


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