Ramapo Ridge's eighth grade dance is this Friday. Is it OK for kids to get caught up in dance festivities - dresses and tuxes, hair, nails, make-up, etc.? Is it a chance for them to indulge and have fun, or an excuse for them to focus on looks and how much money their peers can spend? Have you talked to your kids about this issue?
Mom's Council Member Lauren Rosen says, "Yes, it is ok to get caught up in the excitement of the dance festivities. These dances are supposed to be “special occasions” and many students have as much fun planning for them as they do attending the actual event. The photo opportunities are wonderful for parents and keep sakes for kids for years to come. But the key question is, “How much is too much?”
In my opinion, less is more. The indulgence factor should be age appropriate. Eighth grade boys and girls are youthful and should look and feel that way. There is no need for these kids to look way beyond their years.
As my daughters prepared for their 8th grade dance several years ago, I lived by the “simple but elegant” rule. Now, when we look back at pictures, they appreciate the sentiment. Yes, they did get their nails done and wore a bit of make-up, but they did their own hair and wore dresses that fit their youthful style.
As for my son, he wore a nice pair of slacks, a button down shirt with a tee shirt underneath. He DID get his hair done...I mean cut, which was a big concession on his part and he traded in his sneakers for a real pair of shoes. No tux needed or wanted. The haircut and the shoes were more than he could handle for the occasion :)
So, I hope everyone that is going to the dance feels comfortable and appropriate and has a wonderful time. I will be there and look forward to seeing the 8th grade students enjoying this well deserved and much anticipated occasion."
Do you agree?